Tops & Bottoms 🍑 (Patreon)

Good morning guys, bottoms up! Time for a cake party 🍰🎊🥳

I'm going to start a series of posts talking about different aspects of my life and how getting older has affected them. I hope they entertain you and maybe even help you.

Tops and bottoms: I tried top/bottom for the first time in my life with my first partner when I was about 27 years old. With his help I discovered that I was completely versatile and enjoyed doing both, although between you and me I didn't quite understand what all the fuss was about. It was nice, the intimacy felt great and cozy, but the act itself wasn't as pleasurable (for me) as, for example, a good blowjob. We lived in Valencia at that time and the attitude towards sex in our circles was very natural, no judgment, just go, do whatever you want and have fun.

Later I moved to Madrid, to Chueca (I was 29, our relationship had broken up, although we still went back and forth for a year or so. We're still very good friends). Chueca was a thriving "gay village" that in the last few months had begun to attract more and more gay people from all over. There I discovered many things, including bottom shaming, something I just never understood and still puzzles me today. But I didn't care, I still enjoyed it both ways. But over the years, the guys I met were all bottoms and wanted me to be a top, so I began a long streak of years as a top. I don't think anyone topped me again until I was 39 or 40. It was okay, but never a priority for me because it wasn't that fun (and I don't enjoy the mess. Let's leave it there, haha).

When I was 41, I had a year of a little bottoming here and there and I also tried my first dildo. It was fun, but I think mostly because it was more comfortable for my back 😅. Then I had another long relationship. He was an occasional bottom but never a top, so I went back to being a top (maybe twice a year haha), even when we opened our relationship, the guys I met always wanted me to be the top. But then fast forward and I met my husband and oh boy, I discovered a new universe in front of me.

I don't know if it was the age, my body changing or him, but when I turned 50 all of a sudden I felt a thrill when he was inside me, a lot of pleasure, a kind I never felt before, its like something physically changed in my anus. Then I tried it with a friend and it was the same, great sensation, and then I tried it with a dildo and it was also great...

So what I'd like to say is, never judge anyone's pleasure, accept yours and go with the flow, life is full of surprises and your body will give you a lot of them, changing and evolving. Something that hasn't worked for a long time may start to work. And sometimes the opposite, so enjoy every moment of what you are given.

Happy Pride month, have a great Sunday 😘 ❤️🏳️‍🌈